Divorce and My 2011

So a good friend told me I should blog about my divorce and this crazy year of my life post divorce while we were on an airplane back from Washington D.C. going through the SkyMall catalogue deciding all the things I could now afford by getting rid of my husband, so here goes. I've already made public that I filed for divorce on January 24, 2011 and my divorce was final on April 25, 2011. The best part of that for those who don't follow the Royals or dates, this was the week of the Royal wedding. Every fricking news cast that week was on weddings which was AWESOME the week you get divorced.

A couple of words on that, when you file you really find out who your friends are. Some people are supportive, some suck and others just disappear. Some of your married friends seem to think it's contagious so they bolt altogether. You also have random people enter your life. But what no one tells you is the day the papers are final, no one's there. It's not like a wedding where you build up to this awesome party, it's the most anti-climatic thing that has ever happened in my life and considering what a big deal it was it was weird.

And for those of you who haven't been through a divorce there is more paperwork then filing taxes with a husband who has a 1099 job. So while you'd like to kill the other person you actually have to talk to them more then you have probably done in years, which was my case. We were married for almost 9 years and together for almost 11 years and really stopped speaking or doing anything together for at least the last 4 years of our marriage. The other down fall was I wanted kids and he didn't. I thought at 22 I could change his mind, yeah that doesn't really work.

So I'm going to start posting my 2011 adventures. It's been one of the weirdest years of my life and although I feel a little vulnerable doing this on the web I know if any of you asked me individually I'd tell you the whole story so fuck it here goes!! Happy 2011!!

Finale

So, I'm divorced as of today. There is lightning and thunder outside which is my favorite. I enter this with mixed emotion. It's a new beginning but also an end of an era. I don't know how to feel, I want to feel happy but I'm sad 11 years are gone.

2011 BIG Change

So 2011 has brought a divorce into my life. I separated from my husband on January 1st and filed for divorce on January 24th. He has just moved out of the house while I was in DC last week and has a new place in Denver. Divorce in Colorado takes 90 days assuming you don't have to go to court.

We don't have kids and dogs are (unfortunately) still considered a possession in CO. We are trying to do this as amicably as possible but there are still scuffles over dogs, china, orchids, the important stuff. I am keeping the house and have spent this weekend trying to reclaim it for myself.

This is probably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and I would not recommend it unless it's the last result. We still have to divide the finances which will likely be the hardest part then we have to wait for the courts to approve everything.

While this is the hardest thing I've ever done I am still putting one foot in front of the other, trying to laugh as much as possible and keeping as positive perspective as I can. I will keep you all posted on how things are going!

Happy New Year

Here's to all things new in 2011. Change is inevitable and my life seems to be changing drastically. I hope all of you are looking forward to the new year and all it will bring. I hope to keep you up-to-date better than I have in the past.